Acceptance
This is my First Blog in 2008…
"Do you, X, take Y to be your lawfully wedded husband, to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for better or for worse, till death do you part?"
"I do"
This is a very touching sentence.. It describes the beginning of one sacrate Journey between two people at their lifetime binding promise to be there for each others for better or worse and form a family..
We hear a lot about the word Accept… "do you accept those terms & conditions" "is that a YES?" "inform me of your acceptance of the offer and let me do the rest"…
Mmmm … well in most of the time … the word accept means agree & is relevant to the word "YES" … so it's that simple.. Why am I bothering my self and writing a Blog to describe what's Obvious… Basically I like to share with other people how I interpret what's OBVIOUS…
Accepting for me is Agreeing on something; but does this mean that the thing I'm agreeing on is Just PERFECT and un-negotiable? Guess again!!
When you accept something, you're actually saying that you acknowledge that it's not perfect and that there are some wrongs in it.. But even though you're OK with it as a whole 
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In Life we face many delicate decisions and some cross roads and even some Career Paths & Life Paths that we will have to take… maybe you were offered a Job opportunity; or you've been dating this person and you think things are ready to move to the next level; or simply you're going into this phase of not being sure which way you want to go on a spiritual level..
The trick is that we need to Accept what we decide on, and decide on what we can Accept.. Because at some times choices are easy.. And the "right" decision is obvious.. And some are just not.. You have to think about it, maybe little more than when you're in a fast food restaurant and where the waiter is waiting to take your order while you're sitting with your friends and you're the one left without a clear decision.. So you just say .. "ok I'll go with the Mushroom & Swiss Burger"..
So basically when you accept something … you accept it as a package.. With the high & low .. With the good, the Bad & the UGLY.. And maybe you'll get a clear understanding reading the following examples:
Well my advise to you is the following… when you accept something .. You accept it 360 Degree.. You don't substitute any detail.. You don't say I only want to do the Cool stuff in this job.. And someone else can do the boring things.. Or I want to exercise the best out of this but omit the things that I feel are not right….
Don't hide behind a thin line of denial… if you don't like her parents or found her traditions just too odd.. Always keep in mind that those are details that makes her what she is.. And changing them will simply change her.. And if you want to be the guy who wants to boss around and not to work.. Then you're not a real manager.. And that if your religion oblige you to go to Church every Sunday or pray 5 times / day and not do anything bad etc.. Don't take the easy way and say I'm doing things half way… and that's it's better than nothing…
Because after all… Accepting half of the deal.. Is like sex without the payoff or Like eating the SMELL of Food.. Is like STARTING Something and Not Finishing it.. You'll be satisfied that you did something.. But that something is actually .. Nothing… you'll be comforting yourself that you did something instead of doing nothing..
So in my Book… there's no half way… there's no Half-Acceptance.. You either accept the full terms, the full package… OR Simply Stop Bragging about it!!
Cheers,
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